Every weekday morning is a vortex of four people trying to wake up, shower, dress, eat and leave the house for work and school. I've been sick the last 6 days so I'm a little slower than usual but getting on the road by 7am is key to beating a bunch of traffic.
I was finishing up my dressing with about 10 minutes to go this morning and Sam came in the room with hair brush in hand asking that I help him fix his wildly crazy hair. He had showered after basketball practice the night before and went straight to bed. He has a lot of hair and is nearing his next scheduled haircut on Saturday. That stuff on his head was going all over the place. It actually looked cute to his father who thinks he looks adorable almost 99.9 percent of the time.
I was in a hurry and said, realizing their was no quick fix, "you look great the way it is" and went back to getting ready. He went back into the bathroom and I realized that this wasn't about what I thought about his hair, it was what he thought and how he felt he would be looked upon at school that day. I remembered when I was roughly his age that I was very worried about my hair and then in my 20's and 30's I was pretty comfortable and now I'm worried about it again, the lack of it that is.
I fortunately recognized my mistake of brushing off a serious issue to him, put down what I was doing and went into the bathroom where he was trying to brush out a giant bush of completely dry hair. I grabbed a towel, put it around his neck and shoulders and dropped his head towards the sink where we doused his head with a whole lot of water. With the head all wet again, we brushed it into a state where he liked what he saw and it wouldn't make him self conscience or uncomfortable all day. He has a girl friend now and stuff like this is only going to get more important.
He didn't complain when I said I wouldn't help him at first but I know he was happy that I took the time to find a solution with him. It's the little things you do to build that bond that will last forever, it's being at the game, watching the practice, helping with homework, honestly answering a tough question, watching a movie together, falling asleep and waking up down the hall from each other. He has likely forgotten all about this but I'm pretty sure that the 5 minute investment in time will payoff in spades for the next 30-40 years.
Monday, February 25, 2013
Friday, February 22, 2013
Mary Margaret (Diedrich) Carpenter, 94, of DeKalb, Illinois, passed away Tuesday, February 19, 2013, at Kishwaukee Community Hospital.
Born May 26, 1918, in DeKalb, the daughter of Fred and Clara (Driscoll) Diedrich, Mary married Oliver Arthur “Ollie” Carpenter on April 18, 1942, at St. Mary Catholic Church, DeKalb.
In her early 20s, Mary took on a six-month temporary assignment at IDEAL Industries. This turned into a 40-year career in its trust and accounting departments. Mary loved her work experience and often spoke fondly of her co-workers and the company.
She met Ollie at a dance at the Sycamore Armory. Over the next year, they formed a strong love and friendship that was the basis for a 68-year marriage. Ollie was the “front man” in their relationship, but behind the scenes Mary was the organized and strong partner who kept things on track.
For many years, Mary and Ollie made their home on Delcy Drive in DeKalb, where lifetime friendships were made as they and their neighbors, all young couples, painted, planted, and raised families. In 2002, they moved to Oak Crest, where Mary again made a warm and comfortable home for them.
Mary’s interests were gardening, needlepoint, traveling and dancing. She was a parishioner at St. Mary Catholic Church in DeKalb her entire life and served in many volunteer capacities for the parish. Her faith was very important to her and she lived the tenets of the church. She also was a member of the Catholic Daughters of America, the Kishwaukee Community Hospital Auxiliary and the Oak Crest Red Hat Society. She is survived by her brothers, Loras and John (Donna); many nieces, nephews and extended family, as well as too many friends to count.
She was predeceased by her husband, Ollie, in 2011; brothers, Robert and Arthur; sister, Eileen; and numerous sisters- and brothers-in-law, nieces and nephews.
Tuesday, February 19, 2013
Mary Carpenter died last night from complications from a recent fall. She was my great Aunt and the boys great, great Aunt I guess. We only visited her and Oliver once with the boys but they enjoyed seeing the littlest Carpenters. Oliver died a little more than a year ago. They were both great people, pretty much like an extra set of Grandparents to me, Jeff and Rachel. They didn't have any kids so they treated us like we were their own. Mary left a voice mail on the machine a few days ago that I just picked up this weekend. I don't always check our home voice mail that often and when I got it, it was too late to call back. Her message was simple, she said "take care of each other" We will and she will be missed.
My uncle Dennis Carpenter proceeded her in death by two hours last night. My Dad's only brother who like Mary and Oliver, didn't have any kids. My Aunt Carole has been dealing with Alzheimers taking him away for over a decade. The boys never met him because he was not really capable of meeting them back when we were in DeKalb, where this picture was taken. I realized I don't even have any digital pictures of him and will have to pull out the photo album to get some images. I remember Denny always had a big laugh and keen interest in what we were doing. I'm glad he's at peace now. The disease he had was horrendous. He too will be missed.
Tough day for the Carpenter clan but a good time to reflect on two wonderful people.
Monday, February 18, 2013
Sunday, February 17, 2013
Saturday, February 16, 2013
Thursday, February 14, 2013
Tuesday, February 12, 2013
Sunday, February 10, 2013
Saturday, February 09, 2013
I lost count after Sam's 20th rebound but he also missed a half dozen easy shots on his way to 18 points. I felt bad for the other team but a wins a win.
Tuesday, February 05, 2013
Monday, February 04, 2013
Saturday, February 02, 2013
Friday, February 01, 2013
It was 70 for two days this week but we got another little tiny snowstorm this morning reminding us that winter still has some potential to be snowy. Unfortunately, like that other snow events, this one was an inch or less. It is pretty to see it coming down but man, we need a 5-7 inch snow to really get that winter feel going. It was roughly four years ago when we got 28 inches in Snowmaggedon or was it Snowpocolypse? Anyway, we really haven't had anything all that exciting since.